4th Trimester

Baby is officially over 3 months old now. I've expected him to be more fun now that the first three months of his life is over.

He is indeed more fun. Now he is cheerful and cheeky.

-Smiling all the time
-make calling sound like he calls for mummy, but not the word yet
-Loves watching tv
-Teething at 2 months and a half on our visit too Iran.
-Trying to turn over to the right side
-More playful in the Tesco basket for baby, he turn his head to look behind, stretching his body
-Tantrums with complaining sounds, not cry

One Baby is Enough

It's all because of my horrible experience of giving birth.

1) the pain
2) tight ass doctors and nurse
3) episiotomy pain
4) nurse visit to house
5) advices from stupid nurses and doctors
6) our genes are not good enough to produce a lot of babies
7) kids will grow up and suffer life just like us
8) villagers judgement
9) immunisation
10) waking up at night
11) pain, just a lot of pain

Nasihat Lelaki Terkaya Di Asia Untuk Belia Bergaji RM2000

Nasihat Lelaki Terkaya Di Asia Untuk Belia Bergaji RM2000

Artikel ini khas untuk anda yang masih muda dan dah jadi usahawan muda. Kalau anda muda dan masih makan gaji, anda juga boleh ambil nasihat yang sama untuk mencapai misi menjadi usahawan muda.

Siapa dia lelaki terkaya Asia?

Li Ka-Shing - lelaki terkaya di Asia dengan jumlah kekayaan bersih sehingga USD31.9 billion !!!.

Li Ka-Shing tidak habis sekolah tetapi seorang ulat buku. Sifat itu adalah pengaruh daripada bapanya yang merupakan seorang guru yang mencintai ilmu. Walau bagaimanapun, Li Ka-Shing kehilangan bapanya sebelum berumur 15 tahun. Akibat daripada itu dia tidak dapat meneruskan persekolahan. Dia dilahirkan di ChaoZhou, sebuah tempat di daerah Guangdong, China pada 29hb Julai 1928.

Bermula daripada seorang buruh kasar di sebuah kilang plastik, dia mencuba nasibnya menjadi seorang jurujual, juga dalam industri barangan plastik. Cerita berkenaan lelaki paling kaya di Asia ini merupakan antara cerita paling mula yang saya tahu.

Walaupun kaya raya, Li Ka-Shing hanya memakai jam Seiko yang dibelinya pada masa mula menjadi usahawan muda dahulu. Dia memang terkenal dengan cara hidup yang berjimat cermat dan amat suka membaca bagi mengumpulkan ilmu.

Ketika mula bekerja sebagai buruh kasar Li Ka-Shing berpeluang membantu majikannya mengarang satu surat penting. Peluang itu berlaku apabila kerani majikannya tak hadir dan tiada orang yang boleh membantu majikannya buat surat.

Oleh sebab Li Ka-Shing tahu membaca dan menulis, orang menunjukkan beliau pada majikannya. Setelah Li Ka-Shing berjaya buat surat, majikannya kagum dengan keupayaan beliau mengarang dengan baik, lalu ditawarkan kerja pejabat yang lebih mudah.

Tapi sikap sebagai usahawan muda yang ada pada dirinya membuatkan dia menolak tawaran tersebut. Sebaliknya dia minta untuk menjadi seorang jurujual daripada menjadi seorang kerani.

Oleh sebab suka dengan sikap Li Ka Shing, majikannya mengizinkan beliau menjadi jurujual. Terbukti bakatnya sebagai seorang jurujual amat hebat. Hasil jualannya seorang diri mengatasi hasil gabungan jualan kesemua jurujual yang ada dalam masa yang singkat saja.

Bila dia bercadang nak buka kilang buat bunga tiruan dari plastik, majikannya yang yakin akan bakat Li Ka Shing mahu mengikutinya dan menjadi rakan kongsi Li Ka Shing. Ertinya majikannya sanggup berada di bawah pimpinan Li Ka Shing yang masih muda itu. Majikannya sanggup jual kesemua kilangnya untuk mengumpul dana bagi menjayakan hasrat Li Ka Shing.

Dan kini, Li Ka Shing adalah orang paling kaya di Asia. Dia masih kekal bersederhana walaupun kekayaannya amat hebat….

Berikut adalah petua beliau untuk usahawan muda yang mahu berjaya dalam hidup.

Katakan anda berpendapatan sebanyak RM2000 sebulan sekarang. Tak kira samada anda dah berniaga atau anda masih makan gaji. Pastikan anda bahagikan pendapatan itu kepada 5 bahagian.

1. Belanja untuk sara hidup anda. Pastikan anda bersederhana dalam belanja sara hidup. Jumlah sebanyak maksima RM600 mungkin dah cukup jika anda pandai berjimat. Bajet sekitar RM20 sehari untuk perbelanjaan hidup walau apapun yang berlaku.

-Makan pagi secara sederhana dengan makan bihun atau nasi goreng, telur sebiji dan air segelas. Itu dah cukup mengenyangkan.

-Makan tengahari juga dengan cara yang sederhana dan sedikit buah.

-Makan malam pastikan anda masak sendiri dengan cara yang mudah dan sederhana. Makan sayur dan buah dan minum segelas susu sebelum tidur.

2. Belanja untuk bina rangkaian kawan. Untuk itu anda perlukan sebuah telefon bimbit. Bajet sekitar RM100 saja sebulan untuk bil telefon anda. Peruntukkan sebanyak RM300 lagi untuk belanja kawan makan. Anda boleh bajet dalam 3 orang sebulan dengan kos RM100 seorang. Jadi jumlahnya adalah dalam lingkungan RM400 untuk aktiviti bina rangkaian kawan ini. Pastikan kawan yang anda belanja itu adalah mereka yang:

-Lebih berilmu daripada anda. Jangan belanja orang yang entah apa-apa yang berfikiran negatif dan tidak punya ilmu yang lebih baik dari anda sendiri.

-Lebih kaya daripada anda. Belanja mereka walaupun mereka lebih kaya kerana apa yang mereka tahu perlu menjadi rahsia yang perlu dikorek.

-Orang yang membantu anda dalam kerjaya atau perniagaan. Tak ada usahawan yang boleh naik tanpa bantuan dari mereka yang prihatin dan besar jiwanya membantu orang lain. Jadi hargai mereka dan jangan kemut untuk belanja mereka. Ia bakal menjadi magnet untuk lebih ramai lagi orang lain datang memberikan bantuan selepas ini.

3. Belanja untuk aktiviti menuntut ilmu. Jangan ambil mudah dengan aktiviti menuntut ilmu untuk berjaya. Tak ada orang yang boleh pergi jauh jika malas mencari ilmu. Untuk itu anda perlu pastikan sejumlah RM300 diperuntukkan untuk:

-Beli buku pengetahuan. Jangan pula beli buku mengarut seperti surat khabar, novel, majalah mangga dan sebagainya. Belilah buku yang anda boleh kutip ilmu dan aplikasikannya dalam kehidupan. Baca betul-betul dan jangan sia-siakan wang yang dibelanjakan untuk beli buku tersebut. Mungkin anda perlu siapkan dalam RM100 sebulan untuk beli buku.

-Ikuti seminar atau kursus keilmuan yang anda rasa penting dan dapat membantu meningkatkan kemahiran dan pengetahuan diri anda. Belanjakan dalam lingkungan RM200 sebulan untuk kursus atau seminar yang baik untuk anda. Anda akan dapat ilmu dan penting lagi anda akan berkenalan dengan mereka yang turut sama mahu berjaya dalam hidup seperti anda.

4. Belanja untuk melancong ke luar negara. Peruntukkan sebanyak RM200 sebulan untuk aktiviti berjalan ke negeri orang. Anda boleh tetapkan satu aktiviti berjalan ke luar negara sekali setahun. Jika anda sediakan RM200 sebulan, setahun anda akan ada sebanyak RM2,400. Jumlah itu memadai untuk anda melancong ke negara jiran yang kosnya murah. Berjimat dengan penuh kemut ketika melancong. Bukan kemewahan yang yang dicari, tapi apa yang boleh anda pelajari daripada pengembaraan itulah yang paling penting. Jauh perjalanan, luas pemandangan !.

5. Peruntukan untuk simpanan. Baki selanjutnya sebanyak RM500 hendaklah disimpan dalam akaun simpanan. Masukkan dalam tabung haji atau mana-mana akaun yang susah nak dikeluarkan. Ia adalah pelaburan untuk modal memulakan perniagaan anda.

-Mulakan perniagaan secara kecil-kecilan terlebih dahulu. Trading mungkin satu pilihan yang baik. Bila mula kecil, gagal bermakna anda hanya hilang wang yang sedikit. Jika berjaya, ia jadi suntikan semangat untuk anda berjaya lebih tinggi sedikit lagi.

-Cuba buat kerja tambahan untuk tambah pengalaman. Libatkan diri dengan aktiviti menjual kerana menjual adalah perkara penting untuk setiap usahawan yang mahu berjaya.

Li Ka-Shing nasihatkan pada semua anak muda untuk berjimat cermat sejak dari awal. Jangan habiskan duit dengan membeli pakaian dan kasut mewah. Simpan terlebih dulu wang anda. Bila dah kaya nanti, belilah apa saja yang anda mahu, tapi bukan ketika anda masih muda dan miskin.

Satu lagi masihat menarik dari Li Ka-Shing untuk usahawan muda adalah, jika anda miskin, banyakkan masa diluar. Keluar dan cari kawan dan buat apa saja aktiviti. Jika dah kaya nanti baru banyakkan duduk dalam rumah dan kurangkan keluar.

2 Months Old

- Knows how to scream
- Knows the meaning of calling (Make a few calling sounds, then scream out of frustration.)
- Tough, i can just pull his legs and hands through the bed towards me. Can play rough. But he's still weak.
- Big! He's 6 kg.
- Exploring with his eyes.
- Knows his name.
- Knows where to find source of sound. (in immigration when his dad played the rattles)
- Pooped once in 5 days at 1 month. But now at least once in two days.

Together

Looking back at the video of me and baby coming here to kulim, it looked so uncertain. So bad feelings. But after some times living here, turned out it's not that bad. Afterall, it's always better living with my husband. No matter how bad the condition is. We've got each other.

Moving

My husband found a house. So we moved there on 18. My husband moved first with his car. Then me, baby and my parents followed about one hour later. The feelings was uncertain. A little bad feeling. But mostly I'm glad cos this is what I want.

I still remember the weather that day. It was really nice. Rain in rantau panjang. Then the beautiful forests on our sides. Fogs. My father stopped at one place to poop, then we saw a wild boar.

When we arrived i found that the house is smaller than I expected. As we're cleaning, i felt good because this is a home. This is where our little family gonna stay. Lack of everything. But it's where we belong.

Now i just put my baby down to sleep. He doesn't like endoi this afternoon. He's sleeping on the floor with me. I really want to take a nap. Noticed this black ring around my eyes. I've never had it my whole life.

I miss my parents. They're kind. Especially my mother. She's an anchor. She's so strong she can do anything. She helped us a lot. She helped with baby. It's as if she's the mother of my child. I only breastfeed him. But she does the rest. Now that she's not here, i need to learn to do everything myself. Giving my baby a bath was a challenge. I did it with my husband the whole time. Thank God baby didn't cry. But now my cold heart understands how important my mother is to me. How kind and selfless she is. I can never be that kind of mother. I wish I inherit her kindness, but too bad I am not gifted with it.

Ugly Wife

So I am not pretty. I have a kind heart though. And even though i'm ugly, at least i have him, compared to others who are not married. He's surrounded by pretty young girls and he's thinking of probability of one of them falling in love with him.

 

Preparations for newborn

1. Breastfeeding. Very important. Make yourself ready for this. Not as easy as you might thought. Your current nipples will be gone. Your nipples will get a new look. It'll be sore for a few days. Second, if you have inverted nipples, start preparing now. Get those nipples out. Buy yourself a tool to suck it out. Do it!! I have this problem. My left nipple is inverted. Now i only feed my baby with my right boob. And my left boob is noticeably smaller than the right one.

2. Formula milk. Buy one small packet for emergency. I couldn't feed my baby the first night we're home. It was awkward. I didn't know how to make him latch. I was tired from the labour. So my baby cried out of hunger. You don't wanna let your baby suffer like that.

3. Jaundice. Like it or not, baby will get jaundice. It was difficult. This new person in your life. You're still getting used to him. You want all those moments to be cool and relaxing. But you cannot. Because you have to worry about him. You need to bring those bilirubin level down. So be prepared to WAKE YOUR VERY SLEEPY BABY every two hours and force feed him 2 oz of milk. Every two hours! It'll happen at 3rd or 4th day. Nurse would force you to bring him to hospital and would come all the time to check on him. The pressure from them just killing me. So, give him as much milk as you can. Once he get used to being fed a lot, he'll request for more milk. His jaundice will be gone. Then he'll start gaining more weight.

4. Episiotomy cut. Take care of it. Dab that flavine on it. Make sure your stools are soft. If you have to take laxative, then do it. Anything. Second night home, i was constipated in the toilet. Result from the pushes - my cut was swollen, blood was dripping from it as I push my stool out. The cut was really swollen.

5. Episiotomy cut really takes away all the joy of being a new mom. Your moves are slow, limited. You can't breastfeed your baby the way you want. Can't hold him the way you want. I think giving birth vaginally and ceasarian is not much different anymore. Vaginally is more damaging. Seriously it is. You have a scar down there. Your vagina is not the same anymore. It changes forever.

Mistake ii

My husband is having a bad time in kulim now. His life is a mess. It made me think that I'm worthless. I cause trouble. I am trouble.

But the truth is, i could have different fate if I didn't marry him. I could've gone to another country. Live with another man. And now I can tell different story instead of this one I'm writing.

Him. If he married a woman from the Philippine. He'll have the same fate. He'll get married. Start all over again. Search for job. Fit in new country. Fit in new work environment. Discrimination.

My son is not a mistake. I've always wanted a child. Even before I got married, I always think of getting someone to impregnate me. Then I'll take care of the kid alone. I just want to have a kid. This is the kid that I've always wanted.

But now that I have a child, my life ends here. I don't think anyone can easily accept me and my son into their life. Sucks.

Depression

Got a baby in my arms. So beautiful, so healthy and perfect. He's everything i've ever wanted. I should be feeling happy. But that feeling is not around. I dont feel happy at all. So many thoughts came into my mind.

1. Husband left for work after day 4.
2. Nurses visits to home.
3. Baby's name on registration.
4. Our family future.
5. Uncertainty.

1. Husband left after 4 days baby arrived. This is the biggest downfall. I needed him the most at this time. I've been living without him for one month. And i keep saying all of this will be over (i mean after baby arrived, things will be ok) but he need to leave again. And it just gets worse. I cried on the day he left and the days after. I had the biggest meltdown. I threw my anger at him. I am so full of frustrations.

2. Nurses visits. I really dont need them coming. Especially when they're ridiculously stupid to give me advises. I can learn on my own. They come almost everyday. Then, they'll advise you on things that professionals shouldn't. They judged you personally. And that is just depressing. It's like having police coming to your house. You dont do anything wrong but their visits are so unwelcome.

3. Baby's name on registration. His name was registered in the style that was not intended to be. He has no surname. How crazy that is?? It's my husband's fault. I wish i can scream on his face. I wish i can ask him to make everything right again. My baby's name. My life.

4. Our family future. It's all about his job. He doesn't like it here in my country. He can never fit in. So after one year, he decided to go back to ship. Going back to ship means leaving me and our son for 6 months. I cannot imagine how it will be like. Living like that. I have to admit, maybe it was my fault. I encouraged him. The reason is i feel pity. He got bully at his workplace. People dont respect him. He's constantly depressed. As someone who loves him, i cannot bear seeing him like that. So, i encouraged him to apply for shipping job again. Now, one company spoke to him and they're already talking about contract. It's almost certain. He'll be going for 6 months. After 6 months, our son is already big. He'll lose the time seeing him growing up, building up characters, learning, first milestones of his life.

5. Uncertainty. When i first met him, i wanted stability from him. He said he can give me stability. But now it's already one year and a half. Things are still the same. In fact, it's getting worse. We don't have a house. No car. No place to call home. He doesn't even has a stable job. What kind of life is that?

Mistake

Son, when I decided to have you I've always wanted the best for you. I don't want to make mistake for you. But only a few days after you were born, we, the parents already made the biggest mistake ever for you.

It was your name. Sweetheart, how I regret having your name to be registered that way. I regret. I'm so sorry. You deserve a perfect life. But i can't even give you a nice name.

Maybe it's your dad's fault. It is. But how can I rely on him. He's just weird like that. We can't change him.

One week

Son, it has been a week. 3.50 am in the morning I'm writing this. You are in your grandmother's arms right now. Being sooth by her. Sometimes you cry.

Exactly at this time, one week ago I was in so much pain giving birth to you. Your dad was by my side. I was given pethidine and I fell asleep. Until now my injection area is still numb.

Tonight, I'm still in a battle. You got jaundice and I'm trying hard to get you free from it. I force feed you every 2 hours. Though most of the time you were sleepy, but i tried anyway to feed you.

I still remember a few hours after delivery. I was in trauma. It was like a nightmare. I was sleepy the whole day my head was dizzy. It was uncomfortable. And I decided i won't get pregnant again. I don't want to go through this again. But looking back at those moments, now I have a different thought on the experience. I would go through all that again just to have you. I would do anything for you son. Anything. Happy one week old sweetheart.

I love you.

Busy?

Feeling emotional these last days of pregnancy. Is it hormone? On a brief thought, i will blame it on my husband.

When i didn't care, he also chose not to care. As a woman, i also like the idea of him reading my mind. Every woman wants a mind reader man. Dont they?

Maybe he's busy with work. But yesterday was his off day. He didn't even send me message. No calls.

I became very sensitive. I dont know why. Like everything is wrong. I get offended very easily. I want my husband around. But he's just too busy.

His Sacrifice

Today i went to Thailand. The cosmetics seller was rude to me. I tried to ignore her. Bought two products from her. She charged me double. The reason why? Ringgit is lower than baht. Hence the attitude.

Talked to hubby about his job. His friends got free airplane tickets every once in awhile. No wife. No one to return to. But he got a pregnant wife who can give birth anytime. And he can't even go home. I realized how sad his life is now. It's leading to a bad situation.

Since he got here, he saw discrimination everywhere. People bully him. He's so alone here. He got only me. He got humiliated everyday. Being laughed at. People look down on him. And yet he's still standing strong and still loving me. I am so lucky to have him.

Indecisive Husband

It's been a month. I wish I can turn back time. My husband is not the man of my dream.

Everything that we have now is just a mistake. We're living in mistake. And we keep doing more.

It's not fair for this baby.

Son

36 Weeks, Day 6

Today is the start of the hip pain. I am sure it is caused by the bone. Pelvic bone. Oh, it is so uncomfortable. Pain, yes. When i sit or if i lay down, i dont feel anything. But when i put my feet to the ground, oh nooo. My groin, my hip bone, everything comes in a package. Pressure, shooting pain. :(

Told my mother and she got panic. I know deep inside that i'm not giving birth yet. But when she gets panic like that, i doubt myself. LOL. But everything seems ok now. If baby enganged today, then most probably i will give birth in two weeks time. Around sept 5. Instead of fear, i am actually excited for it. :)

Too Rational

I am 36 weeks pregnant. Since 34 weeks, my husband and i live in distance. The first few days, he cared about me. He called me. It was obvious that he missed me. After he started living with his friends, things changed. He got caught up with works. I know he always had hard time at work. He's not as mentally strong as other men. He lose confidence easily. And easily get broken and stressed out. So, i try not to add pressure to his mind. I stay away from him when he didn't message. I never push or nag him to give attention to me. I accept the way he treats me just the way he could. I never asked for more.

It has been a few nights he disappeared without saying goodnight. But yesterday's night i think there's something going wrong in his side of the world. It's his off day tomorrow, and he disappeared. I thought he'll spend that night talking to me. Calling me or something.

So, yesterday's morning i decided to stop talking to him. I sulked. Then my phone started ringing continuously from his effort of getting back to me. I ignored. But after a few attempts i gave in. He told me his friends brought him to a bar. It's funny how honest he is. He said his friends cheated him by saying that they're going to a shopping mall. It turned out that they went to a bar. A bar full of thai girls. Guiding alcohols into their mouths. Giving them wild dance.

I was in shocked. So i cried and cried. My heart was so broken. But after a few minutes i was calm. I forgave him because he was honest. I think its not right for me to be angry since he confess it to me.

But today as i flashback into yesterday, i think i was such a fool for trying to calm myself down. To be in control of my emotions. I should've just let it go. Scream at him. Curse him. But i am soft. I easily forgive. Today i realized that i can't forget it. I want to list down all the wrong things he did yesterday so i wont forget how he took me for granted.
- He didn't reply to my messages.
- He didn't care about me who's waiting for him after such a long day at work.
- He didn't miss me.
- I was the LAST THING in his mind last night.

Am i too understanding? Am i too rational? I pity him too much that i forgive him for everything he did. He can get away with anything. In my head, i saw him as a man without family. I saw him as weak. A man who can't accept negativity. So i surround him with positivity. I never nagged him. Never asked anything from him. I never spent even 100 for myself a month from his salary. I wanted to buy cosmetics and he said dont. So i wont. I'm a very good wife. Very good to the point of an idiot.

A baby is coming into this world. And, he will come in between us. There'll be no more me and him moments. Things will change completely. Surprisingly after getting pregnant, divorce is no longer an option in my life. I want to fix this so much. But i dont know how. Maybe i should just ignore. I remembered those days before we were married. He was obsessed about me. Because i was different. I didn't care about him. I hated him. I married him out of pity and now i devote everything for him.

I love my baby more than anything. But at the same time i don't wanna lose my husband. If one day things get worse, i will stabilize myself up with a business. Get a driving license. I'll take my dowry money back from him. And i will leave him. Maybe no one will marry me anymore cos i have a kid. But living alone is better than being treated like a fool by someone you love. It's hard. But i see this coming.

I have never loved anyone the way i love him. I have a feeling that he'll hurt me one day and i'll be very broken. I should get myself ready. I am attractive. I can get men to fall in love with me. I can flirt day and night to revenge for him. Maybe one day i'll do just that.

Edge of Tomorrow Review

IMDB rating: 7.9
Synopsis: When Earth falls under attack from invincible aliens, no military unit in the world is able to beat them. Maj. William Cage (Tom Cruise), an officer who has never seen combat, is assigned to a suicide mission. Killed within moments, Cage finds himself thrown into a time loop, in which he relives the same brutal fight -- and his death -- over and over again. However, Cage's fighting skills improve with each encore, bringing him and a comrade (Emily Blunt) ever closer to defeating the aliens.

Brilliant movie! I watched it twice. Some people might think it's stupid after reading the word 'alien'. I know. I am one of that person. Alien themed movie is just too absurd for me. But wait, this is not your ordinary ridiculous alien movie. It actually didn't even care much about the alien. It's just about the major who had to die and relive again and again.

Watching this movie is like you're playing a game. You died and you got the chance to have another life over and over again. It must be inspired from a gamer's point of view. It's just brilliant. You won't get bored watching this.

The Hundred Foot Journey

I wasn't convinced when i first read the synopsis. So, i ignored it. A few days ago i read a recommendation from a blogger. She reviewed this movie and talked about how good it was. Influenced by her, i gave myself a try.

The result? Disappointment!

I should've known. Its just a melodramatic movie. Not realistic. Like a plain bollywood movie, too much unneeded dramas. IDK. Its just not my taste. Some people might like this but not me.

IMDB rating: 7.3
Synopsis: Hassan Kadam (Manish Dayal) is an extraordinarily talented and largely self-taught culinary novice. When he and his family are displaced from their native India and settle in a quaint French village, they decide to open an Indian eatery. However, Madame Mallory (Helen Mirren), the proprietress of an acclaimed restaurant just 100 feet away, strongly objects. War erupts between the two establishments, until Mallory recognizes Kadam's impressive epicurean gifts and takes him under her wing.

Home Sweet Hell Review

IMDB rating: 5.4

Don Champagne (Patrick Wilson) seems to have it all: a successful business, a perfect house, perfect kids, and a perfect wife. Unfortunately, when his wife, Mona (Katherine Heigl), learns of Don’s affair with a pretty new salesgirl (Jordana Brewster), this suburban slice of heaven spirals out of control. Don soon realizes that Mona will stop at nothing, including murder, to maintain their storybook life where “perception is everything.”

My opinion: There's something about Katherine Heigl that i think hmmm... Her acting? Her face expression. Or something i dont know. There's something about her. Or maybe it's just the character. It's just a sick movie for me. Seems like a dark comedy, but it's not even funny. It's watchable but not great.

*Oh, but i think the song was nice though. :)

If I ask a simple question
Do you promise to be true?
Swear to me you'll listen 
As I whisper this to you
How much do you love me?
How much do you care?
Spare me no details, my sweet 
My little cuddle-bear
More than the moon and the stars up above 

The Wedding Ringer Review

Socially awkward Doug Harris (Josh Gad) is two weeks from marrying the gal (Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting) of his dreams, but he has a problem: He doesn't have any groomsmen for the occasion. Desperate and running out of time, Doug calls upon Jimmy Callahan (Kevin Hart), owner and operator of Best Man Inc., a company that provides attendants for friendless grooms. As Doug tries to pull off the con, a bromance unexpectedly blossoms between Jimmy and himself.

My opinion: Very fun to watch! Not boring. The movie just keeps grabbing your attention and make your mind busy. Really fun especially on those days when you feel bored and unmotivated. :)

IMDB rating: 6.8

My Love Don't Cross That River Review

imdb rating: 7.9

Me and husband watched this on Mother's Day night. He bought some cakes for me. Very thoughtful of him. Though i know he is not like that. You know my husband might be anything but he is not romantic and he's not full of surprises.

We watched this documentary on channel News Asia. They separated this into two parts. My husband didn't watch the first one. But i did. And i cried the whooooole time. It's funny how a documentary could be that sad. Well, you know, any movies that comes from korea will make me cry. I dont know what's wrong with them all. They just know how to make me cry!

This documentary is about an elderly couple, wife (89) and the husband (98) have been married for almost all their lives. The camera follows them through the last days of their lives. You see they're so old and the age started taking effect on them. Especially the husband.

I think this documentary doesn't need synopsis or recommendation at all. You should just play it in front of you and watch. That's what i did. I had no expectation from it. But wow, how it gripped my memories and emotions, just left me speechless.

There are things they reminded me of:
1. My grandfather - during last days of his life.
2. My husband and i.

We both sobbed while watching this. He hold me from behind so i couldn't see him crying. After the movie finished, he said he wants me to die first. I was quite surprised because we always joked about this. Then he said, he doesn't want me to cry for him.

There are many scenes in this movie that could bring tears to your eyes. Mine was when the husband touched his wife's face when she was sleeping. That made me cry like crazy! Oh god, it reminded me so much of my husband and i. Actually everybody can relate to this. Being a married woman myself, And being in this state of hormones and emotions, even husband raising voice to me could make me sob.

So, my rating would be 9 out of 10. Just magnificent!

Little Frog in the Well

My good friends, imagine if you were to live at the bottom of a deep, dark well. What kind of world would you see?

There was a Little Frog who lived at the bottom of a deep, dark well. Now let us go down there and see what kind of world he had.

It was a very old well filled with shallow water at the bottom. The walls of the well were all covered with wet moss. When the Little Frog was thirsty, he drank a little bit of the well water, and when he was hungry, he ate some insects. When he was tired, he lay on a little rock at the bottom of the well and looked up at the sky above him. Sometimes he saw passing clouds. He was very happy and satisfied.
The little frog

Now, the Little Frog had been living at the bottom of this old well since he was born. He had never been to the outside world. Whenever a bird or birds flew by and stopped at the edge of the well, the Little Frog always looked up and bragged, "Hello! why don't you come down here and play with me. It's so pleasant down here. Look, I have cool water to drink and countless insects to eat. Come down! At night I can watch the twinkling stars, and sometimes I can see the beautiful moon, too."

Sometimes the birds would tell the Little Frog, "Hi, Little Frog! You see, the outside world is much bigger and nicer. It's many times more beautiful than your little well at the bottom. " But the Little Frog would not believe them. "Don't lie to me, I don't believe there is any place that could be better than here. "

Gradually, all the birds began to dislike him They thought he was too stubborn and stopped talking to him.

The Little Frog could not understand why nobody would like to come down to his nice place.

One day, a yellow sparrow stopped by at the edge of the well. The Little Frog was so excited he greeted the sparrow and invited the sparrow eagerly. "Hello, Mr. Yellow Sparrow, how are you? Please come down to my most beautiful house." The yellow sparrow did not say a word and flew away. The next day the yellow sparrow came again and the same thing happened again. It went on for six days. On the seventh day, the yellow sparrow finally said, "Little Frog, may I show you the outside world?" But the Little Frog refused the offer.

Finally the yellow sparrow became angry. He flew down to the bottom of the well, picked up the Little Frog on his back, and flew out of the well.

"Oh!" the Little Frog exclaimed. "How is it that the outside world is so big!" He had been in the bottom of his dark well for so long that the bright sunshine made his eyes blink shut, and he could hardly open his eyes to see.

When he finally opened his eyes, he saw so many things around him. "Hey! Be careful! Don't hit this strange thing. What are all these green high and low things?" The yellow sparrow laughed happily: "Ha! ha! These are mountains and valleys. There are countless mountains in this world. The Himalayas, the Swiss Alps, the Rockies and... "

The Little Frog could not believe there were so many big mountains in the world. When they flew over the high mountains, the next view made the Little Frog even more surprised.

"What is this long, silvery, shiny view?"

"It is a river," the yellow sparrow replied.

"Then what is that huge, blue thing over there?"

"That is a sea," the yellow sparrow replied.

"That river and sea, how much water do they have? How much bigger are they than my well? They must hold a billion times more water than my well." The Little Frog began to realize how tiny his well was. "Let's go down, O.K. ?" The yellow sparrow put the Little Frog down on the ground and flew away.

The Little Frog jumped into the grass and saw many beautiful flowers of different colors. He had never seen such beautiful flowers and had never smelled such nice scents. He kept on going and went into a forest. In it he looked up and saw many tall trees. He looked down and found many different kinds of fruits that had fallen to the ground. He picked up an apple and tasted it. "Wow, so sweet !" Then he listened to the beautiful singing of the birds. The cute squirrels were jumping, the monkeys were swinging from branch to branch, and the antelopes were scampering speedily.

In the pond, the lotus flowers were dancing in the air, and the lotus leaves were floating on the water like umbrellas. There were many fish in the water.

"The outside world is so big, so wonderful, and beautiful!" The Little Frog finally cried out happily and jumped into the pond. He climbed up on a huge lotus leaf and enjoyed his new life there. The yellow sparrow came back and asked, "Little Frog! How's this outside world? Big? Beautiful?"

"Thank you very much. If you had not brought me out to see this world, I would never had known that there are such beautiful things that exist outside my well ." The Little Frog never tried to go back to his old well again.

[Book Review] The Girl Who Came Home by Hazel Gaynor

 

Goodreads rating: 3.8

I didn't finish this book. Maybe i have no right to leave a review. But, still i want to leave a critism on this work. The first page already leaves you yawning.

Then, the next pages makes me frown and angry. Why introduce so many characters at the beginning of a book??

This book is so freaking boring. Sorry.

Educating A 0-2 Year Old

1. Play with sand, bubbles, grass and plasticine.
- To stimulate motor and sensory skills.

2. Don't Encourage Them to Stare at Things in a Box
- TV, tablet, phone, games.
- No more than 10 minutes at a time and you need to be with him. Watch with him and point out the characters or interact with the 'box'.
- Too much 'box time' is bad for their eyes nerves stimulation. No rolling motion of the eyes.

3. Stimulate Their Imitation Skills.
- For brain development.
- More imitation games, more vocabularies, sharper and quicker mind.
- Close open.
- Say a word, repeat.
- Draw one shape, ask him to copy.
- Face mimicking, sad, happy, laugh, angry.
- Simple task like stacking pillows or box.
- Sing a song, ask him to copy or finish the lyrics of the song.
- Dance.
- Crawling is very good for infants. The longer the infants crawl the better. They are more genius and creative.

4. Focus on Toys, not Superheroes/Monsters/Princess
- Toys are ABC blocks, 123 blocks, lego, shape blocks, animals, vehicles, colours etc.
- To enrich their vocabularies.
- Prevent superheroes, princess or fictions. They'll live in fantasy world and cannot relate to reality.

5. Teach them WORDs, not sentence.
- Elephant, not 'that is elephant' or, 'wow, you see that big elephant'
- Once they're good with the words, teach them adjectives like "tall giraffe, big elephant, beautiful butterfly, yellow bird."
- Avoid using this, that, and, with.
- Order them by saying, SIT, EAT, QUIET. not 'come and sit'. or 'please be quiet'.

6. Power of High Five
- If the child is scared of strangers, ask the stranger to high five the child.
- The kid becomes scared after many bad experiences like going to doctors, forced fed medicine or getting vaccine shots.
- Instead of hug and kissing, ask your family members to high five your kid.

7. Explain instead of Getting Mad

8. Overly Attached to One Person
- A sign of low self-esteem.
- Your child needs to be friendly with everyone.

9. Follow His Interest
- Dont ask him to cook when he is in the mood for trucks.
- Maximum brain development happen when he is doing the thing he loves.

10. Options of Answer
- "Why are you crying?"
- Dont let it go unanswered.
- Instead, give him a choice to choose.
- "Did you fall? Stomach ache? You miss daddy? Are you bored?"
- Even a nod is good enough. Sooner or later he will learn how to answer.

Raising Kids

Got this from here. Its like a list of what i've learned from Dr Leman's book. A very good addition to it.

1. A kid developed 80% of their permanent behaviour by 4.
- teach him the importance of interaction with peer-group, so he'll learn the value of sharing and tolerance. (that this world is not all about him.)

2. Reward and Punishment.
- Reward them by praising. But again, as i learned from Dr Leman's book, you shouldn't praise the kid. But praise the action he did (encouragement).
Example:
PRAISE: "Oh Ethan, you're such a good boy! You got an A in math."
ENCOURAGEMENT: "Oh, Ethan, you got an A in math. I know you've been working hard in that area, and that work really paid off."
- Reward him with a gift.
- Punishment: Naughty corner, naughty chair. Time out. For toddler, no more than 3 minutes. Total ignorance, not even eye contact. Ignorance make him feel unloved.
- Punishment: Take away one of his enjoyment like, "Since you refused to clean up, no legos for 3 days." or "Since you didn't finish your homework, i can't let you out to play with your friends today."

3. Pre-warning.
- "We are going to Tesco, i want to get some veggies. If you saw toys, dont ask me to buy them. If you start asking me to buy them, i will get angry."
- "In the count of three, i want you to clean up your toys. If not, i will seize all of them away. One, two, three..."

4.  Realistic Pre-warning.
- "Clean up or i will call the police." or "Clean up or i will summon Incredible Hulk."
- Your kids will think of it as a joke. No respect. They'll never listen to you.

5. No Abstract, Lengthy Explanation, must be Visually-Explained
- "It's a sin. You shouldnt do it." (what is sin??)
- "You're a child, you should respect your parents." (what is respect??"
- "When you're learning, you need to focus and think." (what is focus?? think??)
- "Dont hit your friend, pity him." (what is pity??)
- Explain,"Dont hit your friend. It'll hurt him and he won't play with you anymore."

6. Kids has no Sense of Time.
- Immediate action. Dont recall things that happened yesterday or last week.

7. Use alarm clock to follow schedule.

8. Ground Rules.
- Every house should have basic rules like, what is allowed and not allowed.
- No cursing in this house.
- Everybody must love each other in this house.
- Everything should be shared in this house.
- Keep the house tidy.

9. Consistency.

10. Do not deny their natural feelings.
- Its okay to cry. But dont over do it.
- Its okay to get mad. But you need to handle it. (from dr leman's book: teach your child how to handle anger by talking about what bothers them. it's like releasing the air out of the balloon.)

11. Mother is the role model for the daughter. Father is the role model for the son.
- So they wont be homosexual??
- I object this kind of opinion. I think everybody should know that MOST homosexuals developed in the womb.

12. Your child is not your bestfriend.

Have a New Kid by Friday by Dr. Kevin Leman Review

 

Its a VERY good book! It makes lots of sense. You can relate, and so far, i think all the methods he teach in the books sounds useful.

You can make correction on your kids behaviour. Be it a kid, or a teenager, Dr. Leman has answer to everything. From spoiled brat kind of kid to a rebellious kid/teenager. There's a fix to all of them. It's a very good read. Knowledge in every words and pages! I truly have learned a lot from him.

I rate it 5 stars out of 5.

I am MEAN

I just feel like i wanna have a fight. Soooo much. Just bring it on. I am so outrage with hatred now i dont know how to control it. I hate myself for being so soft and mellow. I am nothing without hatred. It is the hatred that keeps pushing me all this time. Im such a fool for trying to be a nice girl. Cos i was not born to be a princess.

I am the evil witch. I am the one who bullies!

I can hurt people. I am very good at hurting people. I know words that can hurt people. I am so talented with hurting people. The decision to be nice was the dumbest decision ever. I can make you cry with my words!

Writing, Exbf, Engineers, Mental Disorder

Wish i can start writing again. I know my writing can never be published. Most of them are rubbish, self absorbed, rubbish-talk stories. But, writing is really important to me. As it keeps my mind busy and i like to get drown in the story. Plotting, gets low and high with my characters emotions.

Think i will plot another story to make my mind busy. Not to be published. Only for my own satisfaction. Think i will start today. Yep, today.

Another thing happened in my life was, my exbf from germany sent a message to me again. Wishing me a happy new year. It was nothing much. But it has been more than a year. Maybe all the bad news he heard mentioning my country's name finally got to him. Well, i am married afterall. I will be honest with him. Maybe i am even pregnant by now. I wont lie that when i got the message i was shocked. What a big surprise, wasnt it? I loved him. I did. Sigh...

Yesterday my husband brought home one of his friend. As always, i had this fear of being an embarrassment to my husband. You know, i am fat. Not pretty. Not in fashion. But then i just shook them off. Tried to give the best i could.

Again, the depression i got from the econsave's cashier still got me.She's only 16 for god's sake. The problem is with me. With my brain.

Naming Your Baby

I think this article is super funny. So, the cool-naming-your-baby is not happening only in malaysia. But all over the world. LOL.. Well, i do want to have a cool name for my kids. I have to admit that. But not to the point of absurd or lame or stupid.

A piece of advice from the article :P

"Do not use double letters if you don't have to. Branlee. That's a real name. People have used it, just as they've used Kylee, Sandee, and thousands of other homemade names that deploy double e's and double n's wherever possible because…well, beecausee! It just looks betterr, doesn't it?! We're on the verge of triple letters. In two years, a Trissstyn will show up at your country day school and everyone's head will explode."

Horrid People

This is how it is like everytime when i go out with my husband.

STARES

This is the state where everybody claims themselves as 'MODERN' and as 'FIRST WORLD' as their neighbour, singapore. LOL. Big LOL for you.

I have few johor friends and yep, they are very 'malay' and proud. Though the truth is they're not malay at all. Every house i went, every family i knew, every people i know, they dont have malay talk. They only categorize themselves as jawa or banjar. That's all. So, obviously they are indonesians! LOLLLLL

It's just unbelievable that they can stare at you like a fool in public areas. Like we are some kind of show. Dont you know it's RUDE to stare at people? If you think indians in INDIA are stupid and low. Then you are no better than them. You are as stupid and low as them.

LOSERSSSS

Things I'll Teach My Kids

1. Hate strangers

2. Don't trust people

3. Be arrogant

4. Be angry if somebody offends you

Discrimination in Malaysia

The greatest lesson i ever learned in my life (since i live in this discriminative country) is to live in a nice residency area. Never live in an immigrant neighbourhood.

The rent here is not only expensive, but it's full of stupid people. This is entirely not my fault. We only had 2 days to look for house. So, this was a mistake from the start. But from now on, i know how to handle this. This will never happen again.

With this amount of rent, i can rent ourselves a nice apartment with pool. With playing ground, guarded with security. We were so naive. And now we need to continue living these shitty stupid lives with these uneducated people. Sooooo, third world country!

One more, starting from now on, i will go out of my house being angry and grumpy. Nothing can come my way when i'm angry. Cos when i'm angry, i can kill.

I HATE JOHOR AND EVERYTHING IN IT

(they're just a bunch of prouds with zero iqs)